I had another post planned for today, but after watching a few of my favorite vloggers tackle this topic, I decided to switch things up a bit.
Don’t worry, I’m not talking how to look better in terms of style, fashion or beauty (it’d be a really odd day on Earth if I attempted to tackle these topics). Today, I’m talking in terms of your outlook. How you can view the world, yourself and your blog better.This is probably a good time to take a moment and talk about why February was so tough that I had to take a month off from blogging.
Since this month is still so fresh and new, and these 49 degree temps are begging Spring to make an appearance, it seems like a good time to dig into this.
I’m going to keep it upfront and honest –during the entire month of February, I didn’t want to do anything. Not. A. Thing. If it required more than pressing play on the next Netflix episode, I really wasn’t that into it. Perhaps it was the freezing cold temps or gloomy winter weather that kept me down, but the more the month progressed the less I wanted to do.
When I did push myself to get things done, I never felt present in what I was doing. Everything seemed like to took all of the (little) energy that I had, and being around people expedited that process even more.
I’m a strong believer in doing the work and making things happen. Graduation is months away, the job search is pretty real, and I have so many things that I want to do with this space and beyond that the thoughts in my head and the work needing to be done all collided in my brain and made me shut down. I needed a break from it all to sort through my thoughts. To breakdown what I should do, what I want to do and separate that from the things I just think I should be doing…because everyone else is/tells me to.
Maybe it’s because it’s the shortest month, but February was more of a bridge to March than anything else for me. We spend so much time sprinting into a new year that by the time we finish the first leg of the race we’re out of breath and too tired to push on the other 11 months.
When I say I got nothing done last month, I truly mean nothing. At least nothing physical or tangible. But the mental break gave me time to recharge and refocus. And as a result of this, I’m seeing things –especially the work that needs to be done, in a completely different light. Things are looking better.
How to Look Better after a month of looking bad
1. Watch what you put into your body. This includes food, but definitely isn’t limited to what you eat. While laying in bed with my phone and iPad all day was nice, it wasn’t good for my body which translated to being bad for almost everything else. I wasn’t moving, which then meant I wasn’t cooking or exploring or reading. Put down the chips and guac, ease up on the binge watching of (insert show here) and make yourself a nice meal instead.
2. Keep your circle rich. Who you hang with matters. This is nothing new. When I was stuck in my funk I didn’t really make much effort to be around my friends (who are great). Be upfront with the people around you about what you’re working towards or going through, and make sure they’re the type of folk who will help pull you up. Don’t be afraid to reject new relationships or friendships that won’t benefit you, or let go of people who only hold you back.
3. Learn something new every day. Reading is truly the easiest way to keep your mind fresh and learning every day. I recently shared my reading list for the year, but you don’t have to stick to books. Listen to a motivational podcast (I’m really into Being Boss right now), or create a playlist of empowering songs to keep you pushing and thinking.
4. Get moving. Even if I don’t get to a few things on my list, if I manage to work out I feel super accomplished at the end of the day. What can I say, endorphins make you happy… But seriously, even a 15 minute workout in the morning or before you end the day will up your energy and help you take on the day.
5. Confront your fears. I’ll wrap this up with a quote by Maya Angelou: “What is a fear of living? It’s being preeminently afraid of dying. It is not doing what you came here to do, out of timidity and spinelessness. The antidote is to take full responsibility for yourself – for the time you take up and the space you occupy. If you don’t know what you’re here to do, then just do some good.”
Focus on the good, surround yourself with good people, and give yourself time, space and rest to grow. That, my friends, is how to look better.